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lstanford

28 months ago

If your boyfriend caters to his ex wife is he still in love with her?

A friend of mine is upset because her boyfriend caters to his ex whom he has 3 kids with. He says he just doesn't want to go to court over things, but she thinks its more then that because they text all the time and he will bend over backwards for her. Tell me what you think?
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white kiaskus

  28 months ago
No. I feel that we are capable of learning from loving situations and that love grows. Yes, at one time my husband loved another woman. He loved her in a different time than when he loved me. I am grateful to this woman for helping my husband become the man that he is today ... and the man I fell in love with. I believe that there is a certain part of his heart that will always belong to her so ... when her mother died ... it seemed perfectly natural for him to attend the funeral and give his condolences. A treasured relationship should be honored but the new relationship deserves respect. Stay friends ... be supportive ... but allow love to grow in its new directions.
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davidchen0420

  28 months ago
yes, i think he is... catering is not technically in love, yet just a friendly gesture just like saying hello or goodbye to a close friend
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deebie00284

  28 months ago
I think he very well might be, if you have already left a relationship and are in a new one, why would you keep going back to the old person? Hmmmmmm!?
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enjoi_411

  28 months ago
If they text all the time and he really goes the extra mile then yes obviously there are still some feelings there. Well most likely. There will always be leftover feelings in a relationship that has escalated to the point of marriage. Either that or he's just spineless and has no guts to tell the ex off. Why would he be worried about going to court if he is paying child support and all this. It costs money to go to court. Does the ex have the money? She is probably just using that whole court thing as a scare to get him to do what she wants. OR he is using it to cover up his feelings for the ex.
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Lisa Benjamin

  28 months ago
I have somewhat of the same kind of situation with the fact that my husband has two exes and two fids with each of them. With the first ex and kids (19 & 15), they have talked to each other less than six times in the four years we've been together. She doesn't like him and has said things about him to the kids, but they're of the age to decide for themselves now what kind of a Dad their Dad is. She has also never gotten into another relationship with anyone. The second ex and kids (12 &11), way different story. They talk more often, but boy does she pick fights, I've heard her.... I know he doesn't still love her "that way", he tolerates her for the kids, but he still needs to remain in contact with her because of the kids. I think your friend might want to find out the full story before becoming too upset. It could damage their relationship or it could strengthen it if she understands what is going on. I can understand him not wanting to go to court too because that route sucks rocks! Been there with my husband and the 2nd ex. Good luck to your friend though.
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robbciav

  28 months ago
If kids are involved, no. If the ex is clinical, again no. anything else for sure! Men would rather have their nails pulled out then spend too much time with an ex. He just hasn't moved on yet.
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lovemykids2

  28 months ago
Well I have a ex husband and he is with another woman now and i have to say yes to your question.my ex helps me with anything ,calls me 3-4 times a day tells me he will never love anyone as he loves me.The only reason he is with this lady is because i wouldnt take him back , he has openly told me if i would take him back he would leave her in a second to be with me and his children.She has 3 children and he openly says he wants no part of there up bringing because he only wants his children .Its sad for the girl because even if i told her what he says she wouldnt believe me
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Jesse1982

  28 months ago
It depends on the relationship that they had beforehand. If they were close friends when they were growing up or went to school with each other or fought in iraq together or something like that then you cant blame the dude for wanting to help out if the ex is injured or sick or something. You shouldnt be so insecure! If he's still with you, then it means he cares about you. If you let thoughts like that chizzle away at you your next boyfriend will literally be a bottle.
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CrazyCatPerson

  28 months ago
Not necessarily, he may just feel a sense of obligation and doen't know who to break the bond the once shared, especillay if children are involved.
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minpanpoo

  28 months ago
There are many issues here that we are not privy to, so I can only make an assumtion that he is taking care of his responsibilites as a parent.
However, tell your friend to trust her instincts, they are usually right on.
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